Patric Pförtner
M.Sc. Psychologe, PhD Candidate
Is your mind swirling with worries about your relationship? Do you constantly find yourself on edge, questioning its stability? These anxieties can manifest in physical symptoms too. This test can help you explore if your worries might be a sign of deeper relationship issues.
Or maybe some of these questions crossed your mind, too:
This test can help you explore if your worries might be a sign of deeper relationship issues.
Ever wonder if your relationship is hitting all the right notes, or if there might be a few off-key moments? This test can be your guide!
Whether you're just starting out, been together for years, or somewhere in between, this quiz can help you explore common areas where couples face challenges.
If you are curious about the possible answers to the latter questions, then this test is for you.
This self-administered online screening can give you a general idea of where your partnership stands.
This test can help you decide if seeking professional help from a couples therapist or marriage counselor might be helpful.
Finally, this test is free and anonymous. You will not be asked to enter your E-Mail or any personal data.
This online realtionship test cannot guarantee you correct results.
This test can be a helpful self-screening tool. It can give you insight into your partnership and track any changes over time. You can also share your results with a therapist to show them any shifts in how you feel about your partner.
All questions refer to the last 14 days. The answer options are graded on a scoring system, where the first answer option is one point and the last is five points. Enter your ratings next to each question and click the "Evaluate" button at the end.
1. Have situations where you can openly discuss everything become less frequent lately?
2. Have you felt less respected and valued in your relationship lately?
3. I hardly ever find peace, support, and security in my relationship.
4. My self-esteem is not as good as it was before the relationship.
5. I feel strong guilt when I think about my relationship.
6. I almost never understand what my partner really means.
7. My partner almost never understands what I really mean.
8. When there is an argument, the situation almost always escalates.
9. I almost always feel unfairly criticized by my partner.
10. I have lost interest in my sexuality.
11. I don't feel comfortable in my own skin when my partner is around.
12. I no longer feel emotionally fulfilled in my relationship.
13. The overall workload - including work, children, household - is no longer fairly distributed.
14. I hardly do anything together with my partner anymore.
15. I am no longer satisfied with how we plan our future and set goals.
This online screening is not a diagnostic tool. Only a trained medical professional, such as a doctor or a psychiatrist or psychotherapist, can help you with the next steps.
You may ask yourself: How can a relationship test help me? Well, the questions in this test can be a great conversation starter for your next therapy session. Think of them as a way to express how you've been feeling towards your partner and areas you'd like to work on in your partnership.
Here's a tip: After taking the test, consider the questions that resonated most with you. The top 3 highest-scoring questions might be a good starting point to discuss with your therapist or in a couple's session.
For example, imagine your top 3 questions were:
By bringing these specific questions and scores to your session, you can jump right into a productive conversation with your therapist.
This helps your therapist understand you better and tailor a plan specifically for your needs.